Today, Chris Vonada is sharing building block #2 with us in his great series on The 10 + 1 Building Blocks of Relationships. Please visit Chris's blog regularly. Welcome Chris!
The very best description or analysis of this that I've found is given by Gary Chapman in his 5 love languages. If you really want to know how to provide for someone else's needs for affection I would suggest finding out their love language... there's a pretty simple test that one can take through this link. This is a must read for anyone who cares about giving their very best to their mate or the other important people who they keep in their circles.
- Words of Affirmation - Nothing says I love you to these people quite like "I love you." It's the spoken word that they yearn for... terms of endearment... saying just the right words to them could send them off to attempt a 4-second handstand!
- Acts of Service - An act of service could be doing the laundry, cooking dinner or washing the dishes. I know, for me, this doesn't sound super exciting or sexy BUT there are people out there who dig it!
- Gifts - This doesn't have to come in a Tiffany's box to be meaningful... but knowing the other person's preferences and style would be helpful when picking out a thoughtful gift, for sure.
- Quality Time - Think undivided attention here... this person needs what can be one of the hardest things to set aside... time... without any distractions!
- Physical Touch - These folks need touchy feely BUT it's not all about the bedroom. Hugs, holding hands and a tender caress of the arm or shoulder would work here... and physical presence and accessibility are also key!
Last but not least, there is a very important Bible verse that goes eloquently with affection...
for it is the wellspring of life.
Put away perversity from your mouth;
keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
Let your eyes look straight ahead,
fix your gaze directly before you.
Make level paths for your feet,
and take only ways that are firm.
Do not swerve to the right or the left;
keep your foot from evil." Proverbs 4: 23-27